To me, social media, such as Facebook, is important for the fact that I enjoy connecting with friends, family and acquaintances. I also love checking up what is new with my favourite celebrities through groups, events and pages. I do, however, keep my profile very private to those that are not a Facebook friend. To those who are, I do not post my age, address or what my relationship status is. To me, that stuff is personal.
The article by Sherry Turkle was very interesting on why people are so attached to social media. In her TEDtalk, she explains that people use social media because we get so much attention and feed back from almost everyone, we are always able to speak our minds and that we are never alone. As pathetic as that sounds, she is right! It is like a subconscious thought, and it took me awhile to actually accept that fact. After “creeping” my own profile, I noticed that I had uploaded multiple photos throughout the years of myself which I believe I look good in, in hoping that other people would agree. Lets face it, we all do it!
Everyone feels slightly more confident through the internet, which makes it a lot easier to talk to people. The problem with that, is that we are not acting like our true selves. Turkle states that “when we communicate on our digital devices, we learn different habits”. These different habits occur through social media but when face-to-face with the same person, responses will differ.
Demetri Matin comedic thoughts on Myself were hilarious, yet true. I have never had a Myspace, but Facebook is very similar to Myspace, therefore I can relate. Personally, I am very smart and safe when it comes to social media. Because of the photos and information that I provide my Facebook friends with, I would certainly not feel comfortable with strangers looking at my profile. I have recently gone through my contact list, which was well over a 1000, and realized that I did not even know atleast 100 of those people. Lets get real, 1000 is a big number, and I know I do not comfortably know that many people. So I deleted or “de-friended” them off of my profile, which was quite settling.
Lets hear some comments folks!
Are you guilty of presenting yourself through social media differently than through real life? Do you feel more confident beside a screen? If so, why? Is it safe to meet people through social media?
Demetri Martin explains social media on The Daily Show
Sherry Turkle. The Flight From Conversation. New York Times Sunday Review. April 21, 2012
Places we don’t want to go: Sherry Turkle at TED2012